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#50DaysOfShades Day 63 of 50 – Be Gentle

The words ‘be gentle to yourself’ were part of a longer reply within a conversation on yesterdays post.

They were in a specific context about a specific topic but have stuck with me throughout today with regards to the ‘pressure’ I put on myself about writing post.

Rather than just posting a photo I want to add value and (as per day 51) do more than expected. The thing is I think I have changed my expectations. I think I now expect myself to write something every day and I must remind myself not to force it, but to share what comes up.

If nothing springs to mind that is fine. (Even though a part of me wants to explain why nothing came to mind)

So today have been very much about being gentle to myself, and that in turn has given me something to write about (without the pressure).

Question:

Where could you be gentler with yourself?
What would grow from that gentleness?

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #begentle

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#50DaysOfShades Day 62 of 50 – It would be easy to stop

It would be easy to stop, to skip a day or to simply post ‘when I have an idea’ but that would change the dynamic for me. (It certainly did back in 2015)

The fact that I’m continuing past 50 days and there is no longer a target (other than to keep going) somehow makes it feel more important for me to post every day. If feels like it would be a lie to skip a day and claim it was still worth counting the days under this tag (and I like the tag, it still makes me laugh after 7 years!).

I could start counting again. To do this it feels like I would have to start a different count and do a different theme/tag and currently I don’t know what that would be, so I’ll keep going here.

I say this as I want to reaffirm to you that whatever you do you can start recounting. It is doing the thing (me posting regularly) that is important, not getting to a number. The number is just the mechanism I’ve chosen here.

If you stumble or lapse you can start again and you can do the thing again the next day. This is as relevant to a diet, nutrition, exercise or not drinking etc as it is to working in your business, doing the marketing, keeping accounts, making and maintaining connections etc.

Everything can be started fresh.

But that is not what I am choosing to do, I will continue.

Also stopping (now, for me) would not create the inspiration for post like this. Which is what the project was about for me. To share what I experienced and the thoughts that come up in posting every day.

Question:

What have you stopped, that you want to restart?

(When are you restarting it?)

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #dontstop #keeppushingforward

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#50DaysOfShades Day 61 of 50 – Two sides to every situation

Today my photos were just a couple of quick snaps, no real thought to them other than the first one looked a bit dark, so took one from the other side. Cropped the second photo up and left it at that.

It was not until I looked again and realised the first photo was not terrible that I saw the two images side by side. It was then that the topic of ‘two sides to every situation’ came to me.

Now, for clarity, I’m not talking about ‘always look on the bright side’ right now my garden would really appreciate some rain clouds. So, it’s not a clear-cut version of what is good or bad, or even right or wrong. But more a reminder to at least look for (listen for) the other side of the story.

At the moment there are lots of very polarising conversations taking place in the world.

From what I can see most people are going to battle having already decided what they are going to say, the point they are going to make and the argument they are going to shout down, the blanket insults they are going to throw.

I see very few real discussions. Where people listen (read) what someone has actually said, their fears, their insecurities, their pains and address the actual nuanced issue that has been raised (There are also plenty of post where these are not expressed so there is only a generic topic to respond to).

Most of these situations quickly turn into polarised ideological posturing with neither side willing to even hear the other. It’s as if they are both arguing without the other person even being there and they have just been given an opportunity to talk (invited or not).

I am far from perfect, I have my own beliefs, frameworks and politics that I understand and hold a position on. If it gets personal and emotional, I can easily step back to defend ‘my corner’ but the core for me is to ask questions to be curious about ‘the other side’. The, what am I missing here? What could be wrong with my knowledge, logic or understanding?

Question:

What are your blind spots?

#blindspots #businesscoach #businesscoaching #ebbandflow

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#50DaysOfShades Day 60 of 50 – Ebb and flow

Over the last few days, the energy I’ve had for 50days has been up and down.

This feels especially heavy as a) I’ve passed the ‘official’ 50 days, but want to carry on, and b) I have moved to only posting on my business page and Instagram. It feels like to keep going there ought to be lots of informative content straight away to prove the validity of continuing.

But this is a perfect example of why I am continuing. For thoughts and feelings to come up for me and be shared. For those feelings, maybe, to resonate with something you have going on and to be a mirror for or shine a light on them.

The important thing it to recognise the ebb and flow, to know that a pause or a step back (to create some space) is sometimes the best way to move forward.

The trick is recognising it as, or forcing it to be, a pause and catching it before it spirals backwards.

So, I will continue to post the photos and hold my hand up when it gets tough, as well as having a smiley face the rest of the time.

Question:

How often do you recognise/acknowledge the ebb and flow?

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #ebbandflow

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#50DaysOfShades Day 57 of 50 – Creativity

For years I went through life thinking I was not creative. I was not artistic or musical and that is what I thought ‘creativity’ was.

Then someone pointed out I have been creating systems and process for years and I was already writing and delivering workshops.

Question:

Where does your creativity show up?

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #creativity #berkshirebusiness

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#50DaysOfShades Day 56 of 50 – Where to start?

Most days the title/topic is just a phrase that comes to me throughout the day. Sometimes before and sometimes after the photo and I just make a note of it (mentally, physically or verbally as a voice note) then I, mostly, leave it alone.  Then, as I write (or record) something later a better/different title may come out and get used or change the direction of the post.

Today was a little different. It was gone 4pm and nothing particular had come to mind. So, I skipped the step of having something to write about and went straight to the ‘create the document’ step of my process.

I opened a blank document, copied in my default title format and post header and just looked at it. ‘hmm where to start?’ popped into my mind (in relation to the document). So added it as the title and started to explain where it came from, so here we are.

Lot’s of the work I do is helping people to move forward, to take the next step, to create something, to change something. It does not matter where we start as long as we do. The fact they have asked for support means it has started.

Start where you are.

Start getting into a routine. (Doing it regularly every day/week)

Start creating a process. (This is just the repeat of what you did/do, it makes it easier to restart next time)

But ultimately Just Start

Question:

What do you want to get started on?

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #getstarted #gettingstarted #keepmoving #juststart

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#50DaysOfShades Day 55 of 50 – And Breathe

After the last few days of heat today felt like a chance to breathe.

Waking up and my first thought being about something other than the heat.
Being able to get out in the fresh clean air, think clearly and walk more than 10 paces without sweating.

Fresh air – Fresh Ideas.

Questions:

How do you feel, and what comes to mind, when you are able to stop and take a breath?

What would happen if you did it more often?

 

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #breathe #takeabreath

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#50DaysOfShades Day 54 of 50 – Anticipation

Along with half the UK I’ve been waiting all day for the weather to break and the rain to fall to help reduce the temperature.

It tried (and failed). I heard a few drops of rain and ran outside hoping to get my photo with loads of rain in it, but no. If felt like the drops were evaporating as they hit me, then it stopped.

About an hour later everything had a strange orange hue to it but still no rain.

Question:
What are you waiting for?

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #whatareyouwaitingfor #anticipation

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#50DaysOfShades Day 53 of 50 – Being Proactive

A few examples of being proactive relating to #50DaysOfShades in my day today.

Firstly, I’m feeling the need to vary the pictures more. Not sure how this will go, setting up and taking photos from a tripod rather than in the hand is more time consuming and frustrating (using the timer). However, I’m sure that with a little more practice I’ll create some more interesting images (still with me and my shades in them)

Secondly, I think we have all noticed it’s hot. So, the location of todays photo was always going to be in the shade under some trees in an attempt to keep both me and the camera cooler while I ran backwards and forwards!

Questions:
What are you doing proactively to improve the results you get?

#businesscoach #businesscoaching #beproactive

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